Here are three major actions that influence what role you play in your own life:
1) Not thinking for yourself.
Having someone to tell you what’s good and bad it’s fine, but what you miss is that X is there to teach you that so you can make your OWN decisions, based on YOUR thinking. Don’t fall into extremes. I’m not talking about being arrogant and not considering someone’s advice. What I’d like you to remember from now on is that if W, Y and Z did that in one way, doesn’t mean that your option is invalid. It’s okay to learn from others’ mistakes, but do not feel bad if your choice is different than somebody’s whom you love.
2) Saying that it’ll be the same no matter what you do, when you have control over the situation; and if you have indirect control over the situation, you have direct one when it comes to the reaction.
3) Restricting yourself. And it has been talked about over and over again that it almost became a cliché because most of the people are good in theory, not the same when it comes to practice it.
What to remember if somebody’s making you choose between two options? There are ALWAYS more than these two. The ones from which she/he makes you choose are usually the ones that suits them best.
So what do you desire? Getting lost in the shadow of others or stepping up and create something? (P.s. there are always more options)