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How to make a puzzle

As I have already acquainted you with my titles, you should know that I’m not going to make a tutorial on making an usual puzzle, but “the strategy” is the same. You will discover in a few seconds who is the main character in today’s article.

 

When making a puzzle you try to create the bigger picture that’s illustrated on the game’s box. You turn the pieces with their coloured side so you can see what do you have, how many of them are destinated for the sky, you’re carefully looking at their shape to observe which one goes with the previous and so on.

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Now, what do we have? A puzzle? YES! Kids’ puzzle? Nope. We have a life that’s puzzled.  All types of relationships! Intimate relationships, proffesional ones, friendships and many others. But what is that thing extremely destructive to our bonds? Maybe you’ve been told that you should “know your place”, but the message was of minding your own business in an authoritarian way. The context means everything. Here we talk about rights and obligations, about different attitudes, different situations. In order to maintain a good life, we have to untangle this ball of wool. You have to know the role that you play in these relationships, you have to pay attention to the details, you have to communicate in a way that there will be nothing left misunderstood. Be anything you have to be at its right moment. Time and place are crucial. There is no reason for cleaning in a cleaned room, there is no point of spending time unhappy, there is a solution to every problem, not the other way around.

Take care of yourselves!

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What about us?

My name is Hannah.

I want to have a good relationship with my colleagues.

I wish my friends weren’t so stubborn.

I want him to appreciate me more.

How can I make her/him care about me more, like she/he used to?

I feel alone.damn

They forgot about me.

Everything seems impossible to be done…

 

 

But, Hannah, you know why is that happening, don’t you? Let me remind you.

While you crave other person’s qualities, relatives, friends, lovers, they are acting and you are watching. All this thinking without any action doesn’t solve anything. Your thoughts are like yarns of different colours. You take one colour, grey, then you get the pink one, you think blue would look nice and instead of a product, of a conclusion, you see yourself coming down after your ball of thread in different colours that gets lost and you can’t keep up with it. You feel tired, you’re running after a conclusion that you could simply have it in the first two minutes of contemplating about your options, your priorities. You get lost in time, lost between feelings and eventually, you’ll lose yourself.

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In any kind of relationship, you have to consider yourself first. I want a person, but am I a good one? Did I fix what I needed to fix?

Don’t forget, my dear readers, that theory is everywhere, practice isn’t, action isn’t. What I’m writing to you is also theory for others, but we can prove what matters most will come to life, so let’s put it into action.

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Things are possible. Take good care of yourself! You’ll find the answers to your questions. We all have a brain, use it in your advantage. 🙂

 

 

Friday evening – soul adventure

Hello everyone!

“Do you have 1 minute?” I read on Facebook while walking home and it took just a few seconds to change my destination from home to this wonderful event.

This event was actually an eye contact experiment and it was from far the best one that I’ve participated at. Organised by Teahouse 5 and Podstel Bucharest, this one was a great one. Special thanks to Lea Schedler and Jason Gastaldo who made us feeling familiar with each other from the beginning, skipping fast the “strangers” stage.

In a world where we’re afraid of everything, even of ourselves, these people made the words “unity” andcomfortable” come to life so fast, so easy, but so good.

Staring at somebody else during one minute can lead you to many things such as: “if we would’ve known earlier, we would’ve been friends or enemies?”. I’m just joking, but it can lead you to both intrusive thoughts and good feelings, maybe like you’ve already known that person, or wondering about their passions, with what are they fueling their lives to be happy or what did they visit or whatever crosses your mind and it’s decent enough to ask later, after the special eye contact moment.

My advice on this? Can’t say just “this” because it’s a life-changing experience you should do at least once in a lifetime!

So participate, be active in your life, full of joy, because you get what you dare to have!

Here are some pictures

We have to put it down

We have to put it down.

– What?

The shallowness.

–  Why?

Because it won’t let you grow.

You’re owned by it, if you don’t cut it off completely.

You can’t do things on the surface and be genuinely happy.

You can’t act shallow and expect quality results.

You can’t write a book in just two days and be a best-seller, nor paint in 15 minutes and expect it to be exhibited in the Louvre Museum.

 

If you want quality, you have to be Quality.


With every fallin’ castle built from smoke, You will get old and look like an oxidised apple, forgotten in some bright plastic bowl.

 

 

 Imagine if you’d do your make-up in the same way you’re doing your job.

Real or fake, you decide.

 

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About shadow and originality

  Here are three major actions that influence what role you play in your own life:

  1) Not thinking for yourself. 

Having someone to tell you what’s good and bad it’s fine, but what you miss is that X is there to teach you that so you can make your OWN decisions, based on YOUR thinking. Don’t fall into extremes. I’m not talking about being arrogant and not considering someone’s advice. What I’d like you to remember from now on is that if W, Y and Z did that in one way, doesn’t mean that your option is invalid. It’s okay to learn from others’ mistakes, but do not feel bad if your choice is different than somebody’s whom you love.

  2) Saying that it’ll be the same no matter what you do, when you have control over the situation; and if you have indirect control over the situation, you have direct one when it comes to the reaction.

   3) Restricting yourself. And it has been talked about over and over again that it almost became a clichĂ© because most of the people are good in theory, not the same when it comes to practice it. 

What to remember if somebody’s making you choose between two options? There are ALWAYS more than these two. The ones from which she/he makes you choose are usually the ones that suits them best.

So what do you desire? Getting lost in the shadow of others or stepping up and create something? (P.s. there are always more options)

Are you ready?

 

Everything takes time so if you start to feel that wave of uncertainty that would take you far away, do not trust it. At the surface it seems like a giant bear that won’t get out of your way, the responsabilities, the sleeplessness, the friends, lovers that you’ve lost, the connections.

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The fight it’s in going further, going on with that weight of your so-called “problems” that probably, most of them, won’t even count. This uncertainty it’s progress wrapped in fog.

Remember your victories.

You are here and there is a strong reason for that.

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I don’t believe in “destiny” 100%, so I won’t have an excuse for my failure and from what I know, the only failure is giving up on you dream. When there are so many relationships failed, I will be there trusting myself, working harder on this dreamship, your dream won’t disappoint you.

 

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Yours or others’, remember to exhale it. No excuses, no more postponing, no cancelling.

You have the right and its correlative obligation of making your life how you want it to be.

I won’t say much now, just that you should put your goals on paper and put in effort, leave the distractions, focus. Before you sleep, look at that paper and sleep with the passion and the will in your heart that you will make it.

So, are you ready to keep moving forward?

One more step… one more step… you’re doing great!

You don’t even know how far you’ve come!

Be patient with yourself.

You have to do it for the love of it! When you will reach your goal, you will be proud and more than happy to say that you made the right decision to not give up on both yourself and your vision.

 

 

Why do we keep on losing our keys

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So, you want to go out, but you don’t know where are your keys.

You want to go out from time to time because you feel aflutter, but you keep losing your keys over and over again. Every night, every moment you are too sure of somebody or something, you are no longer paying attention to what you do. Instead, you create a whole new universe, a whole new story about THAT object/person.

Things are fine for a period, but then, you see IT leaving.

You see IT leaving and you can do nothing about it, that is exactly the moment your thoughts are all mixed for a new recipe. You want something sweet and easy to digest so it can calm you, but you mix everything that it is in your head, good and bad. You decide to go outside and find something that can help you get through it, but you are completely losing it, too many memories, too many feels.

– here comes the question –

Why do we keep on losing our keys?

You got it, through keys I mean ourselves, I mean our thoughts, actions, our control over our lives. Now that we are clear, let’s see the answer, pretty simple.

Generally, when we like something, we like to have it, to own it. That feeling can’t be the same in relationship of any kind, so, if you don’t want to keep on losing yourself every time you put your trust in somebody, be careful with yourself.

It is often said that you have to see the good in people, but why do they say that? To keep close to you every person that is disrespectful with you, just because you see a little bit of good in them? Mhmmnope! It is said so that you can take it, adopt it, make it a part of yourself, if it something about their character, and I doubt that you lose yourself over somebody just because of their beauty, so it has to be something about their character.

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Learn to build yourself

Have attitude

Educate yourself to say “so what” when in doubt of what people would think.

Make decisions good for your future

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Don’t compare yourself to nobody, but your past version.

Here is a trick.

When you are in a crowd and the people are rushing, compare yourself to somebody and see how far you go. Keep in your mind that distance and how fast were you going and when you are alone, do it the same but only focusing on your legs, run a bit or walk faster, and look at your feet and say that you can do it and just these simple words will increase your actions. You’ll look back and say maybe that you were close to Usain Bolt. Haha. Do that with your goals!

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Ready??

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Go!!!

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I salute you

 

     So somebody said: “I hate those really vivid dreams that you’re still emotionally attached to after you wake up. You’re stuck, feeling for something that technically doesn’t exist.”

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And now I am asking myself if half of the moments that I’ve ever lived were like this, vivid dreams or they felt the emotion as much as I did.

I am still wondering how are others living.

If they live or just exist.

If they gave up on this life or if they are chasing their dreams, working harder and harder, if they still run in this race of creating the perfect life, passionate, colourful, powerful…

I am really curious when did people realize that “it is not for them” or that “it is too hard”.

I am so curious about their greatest enemy.

I already regret on what excuses they stumbled upon and they decided to break everything just because they did not have emotional support from outside in that specific moment.

I already regret the fact that children will hear their excuses, instead of successful stories, realities.

So it’s up to you whether your kids will see and hear about heroes or unhappiness.

Where are you stuck?

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From my perspective, these are all a piece of cake.

  1. Take the sweets and stop concerning.
  2. Wash your face, your hands, your teeth.
  3. Wash away your thoughts.

“We need to fly ourselves before someone else tells us how”

I want you all to be warriors, fight for your dreams, plan your steps.

You, I salute you!

You are brave and we both know that you can do it!

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Confession

Cold weather and warm colours

Why I love them combined:

It’s easy, but so you could feel it that way, you have to be familiar with the emptiness brought by the problems you encounter, of any kind.

 

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So, the process it’s like this: you have a problem that overwhelms you, you could cry, punch stuff around you, do something you would regret like cutting yourself and in the end you only get with one thing… Voila! you guessed it! That is the emptiness. The emptiness makes you cold, you get used to it, you make it a part of yourself and when the times are tough you won’t feel good anymore in a cozy place, covered in blankets, but hugged by that cold wind, caressed by the movement of the leaves that trees organised along with other parts of the misterious nature.

 

 

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Easy like that! You could say that it did strengthen you or that it made you feel like home, the sunsets from the fall season giving you that serenity you only get from your family members when they feel content and want to share it with you.

 

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Everyone’s dilemma

Tell me, my dear reader,

Tell me what do you do when your heart is bigger than other people’s ego?

Tell me what happens when your partner should have been there, in your poems written to them, in your paintings when they appear drawn by yourself, in your songs when their voices were music for your heart, in your plans… One more year, but there you have nothing more than memories.

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Tell me how do you feel, when you spend so much time with a person, you give yourself body and soul, for more than five, eight, maybe twelve years and because of an inconvenient, she/he decides to break everything as it was just one night stand.

Tell me how do you react?

Tell me, I need to know!

Tell me what is left to be said?

Tell me how fast can you fall from heaven…

You swallow your pain, stare blankly into the screen, into the room, at the sky…

Your brain starts developing all these moments you have spent with them…

You are amazed that the unexpected happened…

Your trust issues increased because she/he was the one for you and then…

Then you learn that you are alone again

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But you know what?

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People are waiting for you.

People are waiting for your success.

People are waiting to see you glow and celebrate with them.

There are people that want that place.

What’s left to be said, it’s only this

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All that we can do is to trust again.