Tell me what do you do when your heart is bigger than other people’s ego?
Tell me what happens when your partner should have been there, in your poems written to them, in your paintings when they appear drawn by yourself, in your songs when their voices were music for your heart, in your plans… One more year, but there you have nothing more than memories.
Tell me how do you feel, when you spend so much time with a person, you give yourself body and soul, for more than five, eight, maybe twelve years and because of an inconvenient, she/he decides to break everything as it was just one night stand.
Tell me how do you react?
Tell me, I need to know!
Tell me what is left to be said?
Tell me how fast can you fall from heaven…
You swallow your pain, stare blankly into the screen, into the room, at the sky…
Your brain starts developing all these moments you have spent with them…
You are amazed that the unexpected happened…
Your trust issues increased because she/he was the one for you and then…
Then you learn that you are alone again
But you know what?
People are waiting for you.
People are waiting for your success.
People are waiting to see you glow and celebrate with them.
Achilles’ heel now it is the inefficiency in our communication.
We tend to talk so much but we barely say something. The air we are using for talking has to mean something, otherwise, we are just wasting it. In the following lines I will explain the cause of it, believing that we can overcome this little-big issue.
We do not know exactly the substance that our relation is made of, any kind of relation. It is made from solid, liquid, gas? Do we trust each other, do we need to know when to pour hot water or add some ice cubes or it will just evaporate?
This is the main problem in our society. This is the result of the inefficiency of our communication. We desire to be listened, but we do not listen when our turn comes. We just talk, to be heard, not to deliver a message, a message with substance, a message that has a good purpose, not the one to tear up one another. Life is not highschool anymore where you gossip, lurk or drink till you do not know anymore about in which world you live or not, especially that there is no parent to rely on, spiritually speaking or financially.
We make too many presumptions when… the person is standing right there, in front of our face.
We sew a net based on our feelings that till that point, our mood has been changed so fast and in so many ways, just like the course from the stock market.
Parents look at their children’s mistake and they say that they should not be envious, selfish nor mean. They always correct their children. Afterwards, the parents discuss between them, different families do it at the park for example, and they feel like they know everything, just because of their age. The kid will grow up, will know what he lacks, where he is not so good and it will learn, but what about the parent? When the kid starts pointing out the parent’s flaws, the parent will be most likely to addopt a passive-agressive attitude. It’s so unfair because in that phase many families are breaking, that’s when our personality is designed and each move is essential for teenagers.
So, my message to you, my dear readers, is to step back, look in the mirror, reflect about everything that surrounds you but with a limit, don’t exaggerate.
Let’s not be like the other generations, we say we are younger, smarter.